MONICA RAMIL THERAPY
"I help Filipina/x and women work through anxiety, relationship issues, and old patterns. I serve as a guide, companion and ally in their healing journey so they can live a more fulfilled and liberated life."
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
HI, I'M MONICA
...and I'm so happy you're here. Therapy can be one of the most rewarding and illuminating experiences. (It can also bring up a lot, so I totally get if you're having a bunch of different feelings come up. That's all part of it and that's okay.) I'm here to help and support you in leading a full and authentic life. Take a look around and notice if anything stands out to you. I'd love to answer any questions you may have about the therapy process or how I work. You can also visit my About page or call 415.741.0660.
You’re Filipina/Filipinx and are pretty new to this whole therapy thing. You’ve hit a point in your life where you feel stuck (whether at work, at home, or in relationship) and you want to figure out where to go from here. You see how Filipino/Fil-Am culture colors your experiences and it’d be helpful to talk to someone who gets it. Welcome.
You have it all together. At least, that’s how you present to others. Inside is a different story. You doubt yourself. You spiral into self-criticism and negative self-talk. It's hard to feel confident, let alone competent. You know certain behaviors and ways of thinking are problematic, yet you’ve brushed them off for years. Lately, you worry (and maybe even panic) that this is how it’s always going to be and that you won’t attain the things you hope for, e.g. a loving, committed partnership, stability, happiness, etc. You know you need to work on yourself and you’re ready to do that. Welcome.
You identify as a giver or a helper. You're selfless, agreeable and don't have any needs. You cater to those around you. You hide parts of yourself in order to make others comfortable. You want to be able to share these hidden parts of you, but you also have a huge fear of being rejected or that love will be taken away. Lately, you're realizing that hiding crucial parts of yourself isn't working nor is it what you want. You want to figure out how to be more authentic but not lose relationships in the process. Welcome.
Maybe you’ve moved to the U.S. in adulthood and are seeing the clashes with how you were raised. Or maybe you’re in a relationship with someone from a different culture and it’s hard to navigate. Or maybe the challenge is with your parents and how their priorities and ways of communicating differ greatly from yours. You'd really like to figure out how to lessen the tension and feel more ease and lightness. Welcome.