Due to the COVID-19 Pandemic and in keeping with local and statewide orders, I will continue seeing clients via online therapy. If you are a new client and are looking for support during this time, please feel free to fill out the contact form or book a free phone consultation. Be safe out there.
MONICA RAMIL THERAPY
"I help Filipina/x and women work through anxiety, depression, old patterns and relationship/family of origin issues. I serve as a guide, companion and ally in their healing journey so they can live a more fulfilled and liberated life."
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
HI, I'M MONICA
...and I'm so happy you're here. Therapy can be one of the most rewarding and illuminating experiences. It can also bring up a lot, so I totally get if you're having a bunch of different feelings come up. That's all part of it and that's okay. I'm here to help and support you in leading a full and authentic life. Take a look around and notice if anything stands out to you. I'd love to answer any questions you may have about the therapy process or how I work. You can also visit my About page or call 415.741.0660.
You’re Filipina/Filipinx and are pretty new to this whole therapy thing. You’ve hit a point in your life where you feel stuck (whether at work, at home, or in relationship) and you want to figure out where to go from here. You see how Filipino culture and family of origin color your experiences and it’d be helpful to talk to someone who gets it. Welcome.
You have it all together. At least, that’s how you present to others. Inside is a different story. You doubt yourself. You spiral into self-criticism and negative self-talk. It's hard to feel confident, let alone competent. You know certain behaviors and ways of thinking are problematic, yet you’ve brushed them off for years. Lately, you worry (and maybe even panic) that this is how it’s always going to be and that you won’t attain the things you hope for, e.g. a loving, committed partnership, stability, happiness, etc. You know you need to work on yourself and you’re ready to do that. Welcome.
You identify as a giver or a helper. You're selfless, agreeable and don't have any needs. You cater to those around you. You hide parts of yourself in order to make others comfortable. You want to be able to share these hidden parts of you, but you also have a huge fear of being rejected or that love will be taken away. Lately, you're realizing that hiding crucial parts of yourself isn't working, nor is it what you want. You want to figure out how to be more authentic but not lose relationships in the process. Welcome.
Maybe you’ve moved to the U.S. in adulthood and are seeing the clashes with how you were raised. Or maybe you’re in a relationship with someone from a different culture and it’s hard to navigate. Or maybe the challenge is with your parents and how their priorities and ways of communicating differ greatly from yours. You'd really like to figure out how to lessen the tension and feel more ease and lightness. Welcome.
Thank you for being the person who patiently listens to all the things I consciously try not to tell anyone else. Thank you for helping me see that I am already on my way to being the best me every day. Thank you for doing what you do.
You carry an energy that is unique and needed in this world. An energy that is warm yet transformational and supportive. All in therapy, I have found my healing and my strength by facing my shadows and facing the harder parts of myself. Thank you for allowing me to discover my true inner power. I also wanted to say huge thank you for being the dopest Filipina therapist. You have really transformed the ways in which I understand myself as a pinay and how I continue with my purpose here on earth to heal my own intergenerational wounds.
-Artist, San Francisco
I feel so f****** understood for the first time after years of feeling like I was truly carrying something alone for so long. It gives me a lot of hope and comfort to know that people/practitioners like you exist. You truly make this world a better place by what you do.
-Hospital Worker, San Francisco
You bring so much to your clients - wisdom, grace, depth, commitment and heart.