I will continue seeing clients via online therapy for the unforeseen future. If you are a new client and are looking for support during this time, please feel free to fill out the contact form or book a free phone consultation. Be safe out there.
MONICA RAMIL THERAPY
"I help Filipina/x, women & couples work through anxiety, communication, family/relationship wounds, self-defeating thoughts & old patterns. I serve as a guide, ally and collaborator in your healing journey, while also helping you develop awareness and life skills."
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
HI, I'M MONICA
...and I'm so happy you're here. Therapy can be one of the most rewarding and illuminating experiences. It can also bring up a lot, so I totally get if you're having a bunch of different feelings come up. That's all part of it and that's okay. I'm here to help and support you in leading a full and authentic life. Take a look around and notice if anything stands out to you. I'd love to answer any questions you may have about the therapy process or how I work. You can also visit my About page or call 415.741.0660.
You’re Filipina/Filipinx and are pretty new to this whole therapy thing. You’ve hit a point in your life where you feel stuck (whether at work, at home, or in relationship) and you want to figure out where to go from here. You see how Filipino culture and family of origin color your experiences and it’d be helpful to talk to someone who gets it. Welcome.
You have it all together. At least, that’s how you present to others. Inside is a different story. You doubt yourself. You spiral into self-criticism and negative self-talk. It's hard to feel confident, let alone competent. You know certain behaviors and ways of thinking are problematic, yet you’ve brushed them off for years. Lately, you worry (and maybe even panic) that this is how it’s always going to be and that you won’t attain the things you hope for, e.g. a loving, committed partnership, stability, happiness, etc. You know you need to work on yourself and you’re ready to do that. Welcome.
You identify as a giver or a helper. You're selfless, agreeable and don't have any needs. You cater to those around you. You hide parts of yourself in order to make others comfortable. You want to be able to share these hidden parts of you, but you also have a huge fear of being rejected or that love will be taken away. Lately, you're realizing that hiding crucial parts of yourself isn't working, nor is it what you want. You want to figure out how to be more authentic but not lose relationships in the process. Welcome.
You and your partner come from different cultural backgrounds and it's challenging to navigate. These challenges show up in various ways: your expectations of each other, your relationships with each other's families, finances, etc. You'd like to get "un-stuck" and see some movement in these areas and come to a place of mutual understanding and respect. Welcome.
You have the same discussions/arguments over and over. They escalate quickly and are hardly ever productive. Yelling doesn't help, but neither does avoiding important topics altogether. Yet, those are the two places you often find yourself in. It would be helpful to have a third person slow you both down in the moment, help you learn ways to de-escalate and finally break out of this cycle. Welcome.
You had a fairly healthy dynamic when it was just the two of you. But now there's a new baby/child in the house and your world has changed pretty drastically. Not only are you adjusting to this new routine and new person with all their own needs, you and your partner are also dealing with the stress in your own ways that often feel like they work against each other. Irritability and tension are high. And it's hard to see a way out. Having a new baby in the house can be very jarring, regardless of how much you prepared. It can be easy to feel as if you don't have any control over your time, especially when everything seems to revolve around this little being. Welcome.
Thank you for being the person who patiently listens to all the things I consciously try not to tell anyone else. Thank you for helping me see that I am already on my way to being the best me every day. Thank you for doing what you do.
You carry an energy that is unique and needed in this world. An energy that is warm yet transformational and supportive. All in therapy, I have found my healing and my strength by facing my shadows and facing the harder parts of myself. Thank you for allowing me to discover my true inner power. I also wanted to say huge thank you for being the dopest Filipina therapist. You have really transformed the ways in which I understand myself as a pinay and how I continue with my purpose here on earth to heal my own intergenerational wounds.
-Artist, San Francisco
I feel so f****** understood for the first time after years of feeling like I was truly carrying something alone for so long. It gives me a lot of hope and comfort to know that people/practitioners like you exist. You truly make this world a better place by what you do.
-Hospital Worker, San Francisco
You bring so much to your clients - wisdom, grace, depth, commitment and heart.