THERAPY FOR COUPLES

 

Culture influences the way we see and experience the world but also how we exist in relationship with our partner. The cultural differences between you and your partner may be obvious, such as different ethnicities or socioeconomic backgrounds, or it may be more subtle, such as one partner being raised in a city and the other being raised in the suburbs. Culture shapes who we are and what we expect in relationships, but often, these expectations are not talked about and might even clash or make your partnership feel unbalanced - as if one of you is always doing the educating or one of you is afraid to make mistakes. Together, we will explore your relationship from a cultural standpoint, including how you were raised, the values you grew up with, and your first template of what a relationship looks like.

Do you shy away from difficult conversations with your partner? Do you ever have the thought "I'll just deal with this on my own?" Do certain conversations with your partner seem to get nowhere? Communication is one of the most common issues couples struggle with. What you say and how you say it can have a huge impact on your connection as a couple. Additionally, what you don't say, no matter how well-intentioned, can also contribute to tension in the relationship. Together, we can explore your communication styles, your underlying beliefs about gender expectations and healthy emotional expressions and how that impacts your relationship. We will develop and practice new ways of communicating with one another. The hope is that you deepen your understanding of each other as individuals and partners and that you walk away from therapy with useful tools leaving you and your partner feeling more connected. 

 

OTHER GOALS FOR THERAPY CAN INCLUDE:

  • Strengthening your bond as a couple

  • Discovering what makes you feel most connected to your partner

  • Understanding your own needs and how to communicate them in a way your partner can hear

  • Understanding how your vulnerabilities are connected to early life experiences and other relationships

  • Developing strategies for managing stress and conflict

  • Developing your capacity for self-reflection and build your resources for self-care

  • Discovering a new level of intimacy and connection

  • Learning how to track yourself and your partner

  • Exploring your underlying assumptions about relationships

  • Developing regular practices that nurture and sustain your relationship

  • Adopting new language for your feelings and experiences

  • Exploring ways you can best support each other

  • Finding support with communication, infidelity, family conflict, parenting and step-parenting, grief, loss, cultural differences, how substance use impacts the relationship, financial stress, sexual challenges, separation, divorce or anything else you may be struggling with

MY APPROACH

I provide online therapy for couples. My style is warm and curious, compassionate and direct. In my work with couples, I facilitate communication & help each partner understand the other as well as feel understood. I strive to help partners understand the dynamics of their relationship while also learning about themselves as individuals. Together, we explore your strengths and challenges as a couple. We will practice new ways of communicating while also developing your capacity to be sensitive to each other's hurts and triggers. My hope is to provide both emotional support & practical tools to help you reconnect and rediscover each other in a new & healthy way.

 
 

CONTACT ME

(415) 741-0660

Foggy Pier
 

(415) 741-0660

©2019 by Monica Ramil Therapy
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #108945
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