THERAPY FOR COUPLES
Do you shy away from difficult conversations with your partner? Do you ever have the thought "I'll just deal with this on my own?" Do certain conversations with your partner seem to get nowhere? Communication is one of the most common issues couples struggle with. What you say and how you say it can have a huge impact. Additionally, what you don't say, no matter how well-intentioned, can also contribute to tension in the relationship. Together, we can explore your communication styles, your underlying beliefs about what is appropriate to share (or not share) with your partner. We will develop and practice new ways of communicating with one another. The hope is that you walk away from therapy with useful tools that leave you and your partner feeling more connected.
Culture influences the way we see and experience the world but also how we exist in relationship with our partner. The cultural difference between you and your partner may be obvious, such as different ethnicities or socioeconomic backgrounds, or it may be more subtle, such as one partner being raised in a city and the other being raised in the suburbs. Culture shapes who we are and what we expect in relationships, but often, these expectations are not talked about and might even clash. Together, we will explore your relationship from a cultural standpoint, including how you were raised, the values you grew up with, and your first template of what a relationship looks like. The hope is to cultivate your curiosity and deepen your understanding of each other both as individuals and partners.
SUBSTANCE USE & CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS
Is substance use impacting your relationship? Is it causing a breach of trust between you and your partner? Do you feel the need to manage your partner's use? If so, you might be in a codependent relationship. Codependent relationships are when two partners are caught in a cycle of dependent but unhealthy behaviors that often involve substance use, deception, and control. Together, we can understand how you might both be inadvertently contributing to a cycle you don't necessarily want to be in. We can work on establishing clear boundaries and setting realistic goals.
OTHER GOALS FOR THERAPY CAN INCLUDE:
Strengthening your bond as a couple
Discovering what makes you feel most connected to your partner
Understanding your own needs and how to communicate them in a way your partner can hear
Understanding how your vulnerabilities are connected to early life experiences and other relationships
Developing strategies for managing stress and conflict
Developing your capacity for self-reflection and build your resources for self-care
Discovering a new level of intimacy and connection
Learning how to track yourself and your partner
Exploring your underlying assumptions about relationships
Developing regular practices that nurture and sustain your relationship
Adopting new language for your feelings and experiences
Exploring ways you can best support each other
Finding support with communication, infidelity, family conflict, parenting and step-parenting, grief, loss, cultural differences, financial stress, sexual challenges, separation, divorce or anything else you may be struggling with
I provide online therapy for couples. My style is warm and curious, compassionate and direct. In my work with couples, I facilitate communication & help each partner understand the other as well as feel understood. I strive to help partners understand the dynamics of their relationship while also learning about themselves as individuals. Together, we explore your strengths and challenges as a couple. We will practice new ways of communicating while also developing your capacity to be sensitive to each other's hurts and triggers. My hope is to provide both emotional support & practical tools to help you reconnect and rediscover each other in a new & healthy way.